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Bhartruhari was once sitting in a cave in the jungle. There was a diamond in the cave. A horse rider was going that way and he saw the diamond. He thought, ‘”If it was a diamond, it should be very costly and I could have many things I desire. He stepped down to pick up the diamond and another horse rider came that way and saw the diamond. Both were Rajputs and so took out the sword to fight for the diamond. Bhartruhari was seeing this scene and thought that even he was a King once upon a time, but left all the riches and came to the jungle. Bhartruhari saw that both Rajputs were fighting for the diamond and both cut off each other’s head. The diamond was there and both left the world.

Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are”

We know what our center of life should be. Now we should know what is the character of our life. First let us understand the definition of character. In education field, character is when the student does not copy in the exams. In the same way in different fields, there is a different definition of character. In business life, definition of character is that we should not lie. In business field there are three things that we require  –
Bypass, Speed breaker and Break.
    1.Bypass:  In business life, we need bypass. Bypass means no violence in business life and have no hatred feeling towards anyone. Water’s character is to flow but when stored in the freezer it becomes solid. Anger in business life is alright. The feeling of anger comes and goes off. But if we store the anger in our heart it turns into a hatred feeling. Are we ready not to have jealous or hatred feeling towards the person who has to return us our money from the past few years?  Are we ready not to have hatred feeling towards the one who is doing better than us in business? Are we ready not to bring them down in any way? This is the character in business life bypass. Jealousy brings hatred and hatred brings violence.

Love sees sharply, hatred sees even more sharp, but Jealousy sees the sharpest for it is love and hate at the same time”

 

Jealousy, Hatred, Violence are three things we should never have in business life. Are we ready not to be jealous against our own brother if he is doing better in business than us? What is our mentality? It is like covering a rotten wood with sun mike. Where are we in the field of wealth of wisdom?

“Jealousy is a vessel filled with acid. The vessel filled with it will definitely burn”


Likewise, the person towards whom we have a jealous feeling might not be affected, but we will definitely burn in the desire of jealousy. Our love, friendship, peace, satisfaction will all burn in the desire of jealousy.
If we would like to have peace in life, we have to learn to be happy with what we have.
                          “If you don’t have what you like, like what you have”
2. Break: We have to apply break in our life where we see that our health, happiness and family are at risk. We have to stop when we know that our health is at risk, inner happiness is ending, and love towards our family is not there anymore.

OnA 32 year old man was sitting near Gurudev. A politician had come to meet Gurudev. Gurudev then sent the man to the politician to collect some documents. The politician then offered the man Rs 2 Crores per year if he would work with him. The man then asked the politician,” If I agree to work with you, would my happiness remain steady, would I be able to eat my food on time, would I be able to get the good sleep that I get now and would I be able to spend time with my family”. The politician said he cannot guarantee all of this as he has to work day and night. The boy then disagreed to work with the politician. He left the huge amount of money for his inner peace and family. Are we ready to apply such breaks in our life too? What is the logic of running behind money all the time? Inner Peace, love and good health is the real happiness in life.

3. Speed Breaker: We say that we are running behind money for our family. But did we ever ask our family if they would want to be with us in the next birth also? There will be one time where there will be no point of return. What have we achieved in life? A speed breaker is there to lessen the speed of the vehicle. Similarly in life, we have to put a speed breaker in life when we feel that we don’t have time to do good things. We have to reduce the speed with which we are running behind money and have no time for ourselves. We have to take out time to talk to our loved ones. It is important that people love us more than know us.

 “Anything in excess is poison”

If we apply these three things in life, we can improve our life vastly. Where money has become top priority, relationships have definitely ended.

 

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Wealth of Wisdom – Day 3

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A man was in trouble. He had problems in business and family life. He decided to end his life the next day. He then decided that the next day even if one man smiles at him, he will drop his plan to suicide. What will our reaction be if we see a stranger in sorrow with a sad face? Would we smile at him or just neglect him?

There is no greater calling than to serve your fellow men. There is no greater contribution than to help the weak. There is no greater satisfaction than to have done it well.”

What is our contribution of life? Suppose we are walking bare feet and there is a person going in the car, we ask him to drop us where ever he is going and he might refuse to drop us. Suppose we are walking bare feet and a person going in the car agrees to drop us and we refuse to accept his kindness, which is more sorrowful?

If we are alone in sorrow, we might be able to bear it, but if we are alone in happiness, we will not be able to bear it and we will definitely get disturbed that there is no one to share our happiness.
So how ready are we to share our happiness with everyone?

There are four types of wealth in life that we need to focus on:

1. Fortune Wealth(भाग्यालक्ष्मी): 

“We make our own fortunes and we call them fate”


Fortune is that which we get by luck or fate. A man who is born in a rich family from birth is because of his fortune, luck or fate. His manliness is nil in this case. A man born in a poor family from birth is also because of his fate or luck. We have eyes to see, ear to hear and tongue to speak from birth and some people are born blind, deaf and dumb from birth. This is also due to fate.

    “Each man is the architect of his own fate”

2. Holy Wealth(पुन्यलक्ष्मी):



This is a fortune that we get due to our good deeds. The wealth that we got due to our good deeds is again used in good deeds. This is due to our own holy nature or our good deeds in our previous life. In business, if we are going very good, is it because of our own intelligence or due to our good deeds? 1% it is due to our own intelligence and 99% it is due to our good deeds. If our good deeds don’t back us in the time we require   help, we are in crisis. An educated person is hunting for jobs in comparison to the one who is uneducated. Why? Because of lack of holiness. Do we use the things that we have got due to our good deeds in a good way or bad way? So what is the contribution of our life? How ready are we to give and share? An abundant river is ready to give anytime. A pond is ready to give water but we have to go to it to get water. A tree is ready to give it fruits to anyone who comes to it. What is our mentality in this field of contribution? What is our goodwill? Are we ready for donation? Why are we not ready to give? No one is with the one who does not contribute.

“Not having anything with us is alright in comparison to not having anybody with us”

3. Sin Wealth(पापलक्ष्मी):
In this case, the wealth would have come from the wrong way and would be used to do only wrong. If the wealth that we have is used for mobiles, TV, Flat, car and for all luxuries but not for any good work is due to our sins. What is our wealth being used for? Do we donate as much as we spend for our own luxuries?
For eg, In Surat, a woman met Guruji and said that her Son always keeps donating. She was appreciating her Son for his good deeds. The Son then replied, “Guruji, it is all because of the good culture that my family taught me from my childhood”.

Have we give our children such knowledge?

“The virtues of donations are great because it helps the needy and at the same time it gives an opportunity to the donor to give the surplus to the people in need. It helps the needy to sustain himself. ”

 

Here is another story. A man was going to the temple in winter. It was very cold. He saw a beggar shivering in the cold and the beggar did not have any cloth on his body. He went home and asked his mother for clothes to help the beggar. The mother took out her Son’s expensive shirt and asked the boy to give it to the beggar. The Son said, “Mother, you are so great. You are giving such an expensive shirt to the beggar”. The mother replied,”If you want to donate, donate good things”. The boy then went to the beggar and gave the shirt. The beggar was surprised to see the boy giving him such an expensive shirt so that he can protect himself from the cold. The beggar said,” Sir, you are so kind to give me such an expensive shirt. But there is another beggar who lives nearby and he has no clothes at all. I request you to please give the shirt to him”.
Even a beggar has such a character! Where are we? What is our contribution towards life? We spend money for watching movies in a theater but when the time comes to give a beggar even Rs 2/- we doubt him! This is our mentality!

4. Cursed Wealth(शापित लक्ष्मी):
This type of wealth is always stored. It is never used for any work and is just stored. This type of wealth is called Cursed Wealth.

 

“Crisis is born when wealth is stored,
 Crisis ends when wealth flows”
 

We keep increasing our wealth and keep it in fixed deposit. What is the use of such wealth? Lets bring the change by giving and donating.

Let us all move towards contribution. Lets donate, be happy and lets other live happily! Lets contribute when ever we get an opportunity to do so. This is the wealth of wisdom

Wealth of Wisdom – Day 4

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Once the President went to the jail and called four different prisoners and asked them if they had any issues. Prisoner number 1 said, “We don’t get Bajra Roti in our lunch and I expect that”. Prisoner number 2 said, “There are too many mosquitoes in the jail and I definitely want a mosquito net for protection”. Prisoner number 3 said, “I have heard that I will be transferred from barrack number three to barrack number four. I want to be in barrack number three only as I am more used to this”. Prisoner number 4 said, ” Before coming to the jail I had my own goodwill in the society and I was in a big post. I might have come to the jail for whatever reason, but I am not being treated as per my post and my goodwill. I want to be treated right”.
The first prisoner only had an expectation of what he required, second prisoner was insistent about what he wanted, third prisoner had an attachment towards the barrack and the fourth prisoner had ego problem.

There are four things:
1. Expectation(अपेक्षा)
2. Insistent(आग्रह)
3. Attachment(आसक्ति)
4. Ego(अहंकार)

If we notice that there is no peace in our life and there is a lot of struggle, then the reason for it would be one of the above.
Today we are going to discuss Communication of Life.

Communication

First let us understand the meaning of communication.
If ash falls in milk, there is struggle. If water falls in oil, there is connection, if sugar falls in milk, relationship is born.

So there are three things to keep in mind:
Struggle(संघर्ष)
Connection(संपर्क)
Relations(संभंध)
In business, how are our relations with everyone – with our customers, with our employee’s, and with our parents and society. What is our relation like? Is it a relation with struggle, connection or good relation?

We have to focus on four things:

1. Social Life: What is our social life? What is our connection with the society? What is our biggest contribution of society towards us? It is that, society has kept us in limit and reminded about our principles. Society has taught us civility. What is our tuning with the society? As our wealth increases, our communication with the society starts ending.

Social Life

A man came to meet Gurudev. He said he had killed 17 people. He said that there was a society of criminals where he stayed. They had a rule that if they killed any man, they would meet his wife the same day and promise that they would give her monthly Rs 3000/- until she got married again. It was their responsibility to take care of these women. Their rule was that they would not touch any woman. Society has taught us what kind of food to eat, what to drink and what type of clothes to wear. The parents who are insistent that their kids follow the morals and culture are sad today as this generation is not ready to listen to their parents. Today’s generation want to go their own way. So what is our social life like?

2. Family Life: Is there any communication left with our family – with parents, husband, wife, daughter-in-law, son etc? We simply say that there is a generation gap. Generation gap will always be there between a father and his son. They cannot be of the same age for sure. There is no communication at all! What is our family life like? A son feels good to sit and talk to his friend rather than his father. Facebook has become such an addiction that no one has time for their family members.

Happy Family

Why is there such an environment in our family? There is no love between anyone. We need heart for communication and not intelligence. It might happen that our thoughts might not be alike but there has to be communication. Have we ever seen parallel rail tracks meet? But the rail tracks are always together and they help a train reach its destination.

The center of both Ramayana and Mahabharata is family. What is our family life? If we have ten minutes in the evening after all work is done, why don’t we have the heart to sit with our family members. What do we wish – Do we want to achieve something good or become good?

” In Life’s Journey, what we have achieved is not important but what we have become is important”



Wealth of Wisdom – Day5

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There were two son’s of a man who stayed in the same family. One son has such a good life that we cannot express in words and the other had such a worst life. There was such a big difference between both the brothers who stayed in the same family. A journalist too the interview of the brother who had a very bad life and asked, “Why is your life so bad?” . The son replied,”I am experiencing what my father has experienced in his life. I drink, smoke, get angry, beat my wife”. The journalist then asked the other brother the secret to his good life. He replied,” It was due to his father”. The journalist was shocked that one brother blamed his father for his bad life and the other gave credit to his father for his good life. The brother who had a good life said that his father used to drink, beat his mother, consumed tobacco and lost all money in business. He had kept his father’s life in front of his eyes and the results of what his father had done and made his life better. He did not take the path his father had taken and hence had a good life.

Today we are going to discuss the Community of Life and the following points are worth thinking about and community of life means:

1. SPACE:
In which phase of life do we want to be?
a. Progress Phase(विकास)
b. Rest Phase(विश्राम) or
c. Destruction Phase(विनाश)

In this worldly life, there are many things we need to do. We have to do business to progress in life and that is Progress phase. In spiritual life, when we go the temple and saints, we are in the Rest phase. When anything disturbs us in our life we are in the destruction phase. Which is more attractive to us?

In which of these phases do we like to be longer – Progress phase, Rest phase or Destruction phase? Which one do we pray for? Which one gives us more happiness? Do we like to sit and watch TV, play games, go to disco, hotels, clubs etc. These are all the destruction phase. Do we like to sit with friends who talk wrong or with Saints who talk good and pure? When do we feel light? Where do we want to go? Community of life is what decision do we want to take for our life? Which path do we want to choose for ourselves? Where are we? A saint’s life is pure because of the Rest Phase. There is nothing to hear, do or see wrong.
We are actually more towards destruction phase as we feel that gives us happiness. A smoker knows that smoking can affect his health but he still smokes as he feels good for time being. A person who drinks wine also knows it is bad for health but still drinks. This is all self destruction. Can we give time to temple as much as time we give for TV?  Let us observe ourselves and choose the right for ourselves.

2. LITERATURE:

“We know too much, and are convinced of too little. Our literature is a substitute for religion, and so is our religion”

What is our mentality in the field of literature. What is the standard of the newspapers, magazines, books that are lying on our table? What is the first impression of the guests who visit our house – do they think that we have such good morals and culture?

The day Bhagat Singh was about to be hanged to death, he was reading a book. The jailor asked what he was reading and that it was time for his death. Bhagat Singh replied that,” Sir, I am reading a book on our country and only two pages are left. Let me finish this and then I am ready to die”.
So what kind of Literature do our family members read? We just have mobiles and TV.  We read all kinds of books but don’t read literature on purity! The biggest strength of a Saint’s life is Literature. We are never interested to read these kind of books. Today, magazines with vulgar supplementary are a part of our literature.

A lady once decided to commit suicide as her husband was in some trouble and everything had ended. She wrote a suicide note. She went to her friend’s house to give the note so that her friend and give it to her husband after her death. Her friend was having a bath and it was taking some time. In the mean while the lady found the book,”Muskaan Bhari Mrutyu” by Acharayaji. After reading few pages of the book, she dropped her suicide plan and decided that she will face any difficult situation but will not commit suicide. Her friend then came and asked her the reason she had come. The lady replied that she had just come to meet her and left. A good book saved a life!

“The decline of literature indicates the decline of a nation”

3. PERSON:

What type of person do we like to sit with? What is our company like? What type of friends do we have and like to have? Do we like a person who speaks about donation or about making money? What is our inner attraction towards? Would a beggar like to be friends with a beggar or a rich man?
We should never be friends with people who break our relations and our family, who give us wrong ideas and thoughts. We have to leave anything that disturbs our peace, purity and happiness.

“You can tell more about a person by what he says about others than you can by what others say about him”

4. THOUGHTS:


What type of thoughts give us happiness? We are independent to choose our thoughts and what we think. There are no restrictions in what we would like to think.The one who resides near a gutter can never get the fragrance of a rose! Always aim at complete harmony of thought and word and deed. Always aim at purifying your thoughts and everything will be well.

“We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves”

Let’s be alert and change our lives!

 

Week 1 – Lets Recharge Our Relations (3 july – 8 july)

 

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Chaturmas Series – Day 4

 

 

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Sandheh Se Samarpan

Doubt to Dedication

“The Guru is the Ladder, the Guru is the Boat, and the Guru is the Raft to take me to the Lord’s Name. The Guru is the Boat to carry me across the world-ocean; the Guru is the Sacred Shrine of Pilgrimage, the Guru is the Holy River. If it pleases Him, I bathe in the Pool of Truth, and become radiant and pure.”

There are some points to remember in order to build a good relation with our Guru:
1. Near:

A flower looks beautiful from far away and thorns are seen when we come near to the flower. But we just ignore the thorns and pluck the flower for its beauty and fragrance. Our love for the flower remains the same even after seeing the thorns in it.
                                         “He who wants the rose, must respect the thorn”

 Likewise, in order to maintain good relations with God and our Guru, we need to take the good things from them. We have to come near to our Guru to grow in life.  In spiritual life, there will be difficulties, but we need to learn from them for our own growth. After seeing the weakness in our Guru’s life and still being able to love them the way they are is the biggest challenge. If we want to inherit something from our Guru, we have to take the good from them.
2.  Hear:

         “Hear one side and you will be in the dark. Hear both and all will be clear.”
Do we have the ability in us to hear what our Guru has to say?We have to understand that whatever our Guru says is for our welfare and well being and we have to hear first as listening brings more welfare than seeing. We have to come near our Guru to understand their true value. A doctor prescribes a medicine that is good for the patient and not a medicine that the patient likes. Similarly, a Guru will tell us what is good for us.
Once Gurudev went to his Guru and said that he feels very hurt the way he treats him. He does not like the torture. Gurudev’s guru replied,” I have not made you a Saint to protect your mind but to protect your soul”.
When a Potter makes a pot, with one hand he shapes the pot from outside and with the other hand he supports the pot from inside. So we all are able to see the harsh words of our Guru but we are not able to see that our Guru protects us from inside.
Once a Guru asked his disciple not to go outside. Even after telling a number of times, the disciple went as he had some important work. When he went outside, he saw a donkey crying on one corner of the road and he returned back thinking it is a bad sign. His Guru then asked why he had returned. The disciple explained that there was a donkey crying, he returned as his work will not be done. So such is our case. We listen to the donkey but not our Guru!
Even a cricket player listens to his coach in order to grow in his career. Likewise, we have to listen to our Guru to grow in spiritual life. There should be no arguments and no doubts, but just the ability to hear.
3. Dear:

Our love and respect for our Guru has to be steady no matter how our Guru says or how he treats us. Our love has to be the same even if we they say something that we don’t like. They still have to dear to us.
                               “Every stone is ordinary, a sculptor makes it extra ordinary
                               Every disciple is ordinary, a Guru makes him extra ordinary”
When a Guru tells his disciple to GO AWAY, and the disciple still says NO WAY, that is love of the disciple for his Guru. The disciple does not want to leave his Guru no matter how he treats him or whether he hurts him.The love which the disciple has for his Guru is really the response evoked by the greater love which the Guru has for the disciple. and it is to be placed above all other loves.
Here is a story from Mahabharata to explain this:
Eklavya was a brave boy and had a great desire to learn archery from Dronacharya. He had dreamed for learning the art of archery under Drona but he was not accepted as a disciple. But Eklavya was very determined. He installed a clay idol of Dronacharya near his house and worshiped it as his Guru. Everyday he prayed in front of the idol and took self lessons in bow and arrow. Soon he became an expert in the field of archery. One day Dronacharya and Arjuna were passing near the hut of Eklavya. Dronacharya saw the skills of Eklavya and asked who his Guru was? Eklavya was very excited on seeing Drona and said that he worshiped him and that he was only his Guru. Dronacharya had never accepted Eklavya as his disciple as he loved Arjuna and wanted Arjuna to be on the top always. So Dronacharya asked Eklavya for Guru Dakshina. He asked Eklavya for his right thumb as his Guru Dakshina. But Eklavya was happy and kept his promise without any protest. He cut off his right thumb and placed at the feet of Dronacharya. Such is the sacrifice of a true disciple for his Guru!
A Guru always wants to give a lot to his disciples, but a disciple gets what he deserves.
4. TEARS:
                                         “Tears are words the heart can’t express”
Is is so true that tears are the silent language of love. Have we ever felt this love for our Guru. Tears would flow our of our eyes when we know that whatever we are today is because of our Guru. What role does tears play in our life? Gurudev, with his Guru’s blessing is today able to talk in front of thousand’s of people and has written so many books. He might have become proud about his accomplishments but he did not. When we come near our Guru, love them and listen to them , we will become devoted to them in any case.
There was man in Mumbai who used to live in a flat worth Crores. He used to go everyday to Gurudev and asked him to come to his house for Bhiksha. When Gurudev said no to him, he started crying. Tears were flowing out of his eyes. Seeing this, Gurudev agreed to go his house. Gurudev had asked on which floor was his flat. The man replied that his house was on the 21st floor. But on seeing his love, Gurudev went to his flat and took Bhiksha. The man was filled with so much joy that he could not explain in words. On coming closet to our Guru we will learn how to maintain peace in our life. If we don’t consider our Guru “Dear” to us we can never come “Near” to them.
5. FEAR:

       “One who does not fear God, shall live in fear; without the Guru there is only pitch darkness”
Place the fear of the God on your head and bear that weight, for those who do not have the fear of God or their Guru are overtaken by fear. They are destroyed by their own pride. When we fear to do anything that our Guru does not like, we will never do anything wrong. This fear that we have is a positive one and not a negative one. This positive fear will help us to grow in life and it has a lot of strength in it. We have to fear the one’s we love. This fear will take us long way in our life.
A man had a wine shop near the temple. Everyday around ten people who used to go to the temple used to curse the man for having a wine shop next to a holy place. They used to wish that his shop catches fire. One day, it happened that the shop was really on fire. The man then lodged a complaint in the court that his shop caught fire because of the people’s curse. The people who had cursed the wine shop asked the Judge that how could their curse cause fire. But the Judge said that the man who has kept wine shop has more faith on God than them because he believes that God has listened to their wish.
So we need to come close to our Guru, listen to them and follow their teachings to live a good meaningful life.

  “Let no man in the world live in delusion. Without a Guru none can cross over to the other shore.”


 

Chaturmas Series – Day 3

 

 

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Nahi Aiso Janam Baar Baar


Nahi Aiso Janam Baar Baar

God gave us the gift of life; it is up to us to give ourselves the gift of living well. God allows us to experience the low points of life in order to teach us lessons we could not learn in any other way. The way we learn those lessons is not to deny the feelings but to find the meanings underlying them.

In olden days, there was no mobile or internet facility. A girl got engaged to a boy who lived in America. They both promised to send each other letters every week and the boy flew back to America. Both used to wait eagerly for the letters. The were happy to write to each other. This went on for 2 months, then the letter started coming fortnightly for three months. Then the girl wrote only one letter in one month, and then one letter in 4 months, one letter in 6 months and finally no letter at all! The boy was worried as there were no misunderstandings between them. He asked the girl what mistake had he done and why was there no letter from the girl. The girl replied that there are no misunderstandings but she does not want to marry him. She said that the post man first used to deliver her the letters from America. Slowly she fell in love with him and got married to him. Hence the girl asked the boy to forget her.
Similarly in our life, our near and dear ones, like our Parents, our family members, close friends and relatives are all the letters from God to us and our good deeds, luck and fortune is the Postman who delivers Letters to us. So what do we want in Life? Money or God? We will never get this birth again. Here are somethings to do to live a good meaningful life:

1. CHOICE:



Life is the journey from B to D. Here B is Birth and D is Death. No matter what happens, we always have a choice. Even when it seems that there is no option, there is always something else that can be done. What happens in our lives is the result of decisions that we make.We choose our joys and sorrows long before we experience them.You are the person who has to decide. Whether you’ll do it or toss it aside; you are the person who makes up your mind. Whether you’ll lead or will linger behind. Whether you’ll try for the goal that’s afar. Or just be contented to stay where you are. Animals, Prisoners, Poor people don’t have the power to make choice. God has gifted us eyes, ears, mouth, it depends on us to choose what to see, hear and talk. What is our mentality in the field of choice? Man can choose to go to clubs or to temple. If a poor man is given Rs 1/- he might buy himself food, a business man might make crores of rupees and a gambler might gamble with the money. It is all our choice. Choice is our biggest strength. Bad words are made from alphabets and God’s prayers are also made from alphabets. It all depends on the choice of letters. Our choice is that we want the best bungalow, house, car, and all luxuries in life, but why don’t we choose good thoughts? Animals going to slaughter house have no choice but to be killed. Donkey has no choice but obey his master. A servant has to do his duty and obey his master.  It is God’s blessings that we are able to make choices for ourselves, then why are we always complaining about our life?
“Our Nature is our Future”
For eg. A teacher once asked in the classroom, ” Differentiate between the use of a thing and its wrong use.”
The boy said, ” Teacher, Scale is used to measure but you use it to beat us”.
Another eg, A man used to always donate money for good causes. He had an 8 year old son. Gurudev asked if his son also donates. The man asked why at this age? Gurudev said it is important even for kids to understand the values and culture of their family. Gurudev asked the man to give Rs 200/- and ask him to donate or use in a good way for some one in need. The man did what Gurudev asked him to do. One day the man received a phone call from his son’s school. It was the Principal on the other end. The Principal asked if had given his son money. The man said yes and asked what has happened. The Principal said that the boy had come to meet her and asked if there was any poor student in the class as he wanted to pay Rs 200/- as fees.
This is the Power of Choice!

2. CHECK:


Contradictions do not exist. Whenever you think you are facing a contradiction, check your premises. You will find that one of them is wrong.

After making a choice, have we checked if we are right or wrong? We chose Money as we wanted to live a happy life, but have we checked if our goal is accomplished? We have to Observe ourselves and know where we are!

For eg, Once a wife told her husband about her dream. She said she had dream’t that they were going on the way and her husband had got her a necklace worth Rs 5 Lakhs. Husband did not react or say anything. On being asked the husband replied that he also dream’t the same thing but the bill was paid by his father in law.
A good business man checks his position, margin, capital and income.A good author check his book before publishing it. If we don’t get cured by a particular medicine that the doctor has given , we check and take the necessary steps. In our life, we keep running behind wealth, car, bungalow and all luxuries, but have we checked ourselves and where we are heading towards in our life? What is our mentality in this field? We have to observe and check ourselves every single day to see if we have accomplished our goal, if we have done any mistakes that we can correct. An eraser behind a pencil is there to help us not to repeat the same mistakes again.
For eg. A TC once came to check ticket of a passenger. The passenger checked and could not find his ticket. The TC asked the passenger not to get tensed as he can read the man’s face and knows that he will find the ticket. The passenger replied, ” I am not checking my pocket to show you the ticket, but I am checking where I have to go?”
So in life, we need to keep checking ourselves constantly to be on the right track.

3. CHANGE:


“Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.”



When a medicine does not work, we change it. We might have made choices, checked them also, but if they were wrong, did we take the step to change? We have taken care of everyone, now it is time to do something for ourselves. While going on the road, if we realize it is the wrong road, don’t we take a reverse and change the road? God has gives us the blessings to change when we are wrong. What have we achieved by doing wrong? Why don’t we change?
For eg. When Gurudev was a small boy, he was once standing in a line to take pass for the train. There was an old man in the queue. A pick pocketer came to him and asked him to read a letter he had in his hand. The old man could hardly see but was trying to read. In the mean time, the pick pocket man stole the old man’s wallet and left. He went below a bridge and showed the wallet to his friend. His friend asked from where did he get such a wallet full of money? The pocket man replied that he stole the old man’s wallet. The friend asked him why he had stolen an old man’s wallet. He asked him to return it in the same way he had stolen the purse. The pick pocket man did the same and returned the wallet to the old man.
A Pick Pocket man can change, then why not we?
We should never commit the same mistake again under known circumstances. Like, if had lied to increase our salary in the times of recession it is okay. But it is wrong to lie when there is no recession. We send our kids to good schools. Do we look at good education or good culture of the school?
For eg. A father used to drop his son to school every morning. One day the son told his father to leave him about a kilometer before his school. The father asked the reason. The son replied that his father looked ugly and hence he should not come to his school. His father asked what if he comes to his school everyday? The son replied that he would say that he has hired a new driver!
We have to ask our mothers, what they had thought for us when we were born. Mothers would say that they thought something else for us and we have become something else. Life is not given to us to sleep, but to be awake and change!
“When in doubt, choose change”


4. CHALLENGE: 


“There are no negatives in life, only challenges to overcome that will make you stronger.” 

 


We have to learn to take challenges in life, no matter how old we are.

A man use to come to Gurudev every night and used to press his head. In every 5 minutes he would go out and come back. Gurudev understood that he used to go and smoke. When he used to come back, though Gurudev knew about his smoking habit, he did not say anything. This went on for a while. The boy was worried thinking why Gurudev never used to say anything to him. He then called Gurudev to his house. The man finally asked,” Don’t you know something? ” Gurudev asked what? The man said that he used to smoke everyday and that he is a chain smoker. Gurudev replied, ” I knew that you used to go out for smoking. I have seen many chain smokers but no one good like you who used to come to me everyday.” The man was moved by what Gurudev said and took a challenge for life that he will never smoke again.
Life is also battle field. We have to try and take challenges to change ourselves.

          “We don’t lose when we fall down, we lose when we don’t get up after falling down!”

 

 

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